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pensiveaspie

Bio: I'm Sherri Schultz, pen name Pensive Aspie. I'm an Aspie, a wife, a mom, an aunt, a nurse, a Christian, a supporter of equality, a bibliophile, and a fan but not a fanatic of most things sci-fi and logical. My passion is Asperger's and helping others on the spectrum. I run a small online support group for individuals with ASD. I have found that the more knowledge I share, the more I receive.

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  1. Hiya, I was interested in a couple of things you said:
    1. You would like to hear from Aspie bloggers/journallers – I don’t blog (no time, at present, but it’s coming!) but do keep a personal journal.
    2. You would like to be a counsellor/advisor to parents of Aspies? I have just completed my counselling/psychotherapy diploma, and am about to finish my degree in June. My main motivation in getting this qualification was to give Aspie parents/carers someone to talk to who TRULY understands what it’s like to live with AS 24-7.
    To give you a brief synopsis: I was born in South Africa, married an Irish guy and moved to Ireland in 2000 with my 6-yr-old son and 1-yr-old daughter. I knew from early on that my strong pirate (son) was struggling with something – the problem was that for years, no-one knew exactly what! He was diagnosed with AS when he was 8, very soon after that I realised that I have AS, as does my father, possibly my brother and other relatives on my dad’s side. Not long after that, I noticed that something was up with my fairy princess (daughter) and diagnosed her as a girl-Aspie myself, because the specialists just shook their heads and scratched their noses – in Ireland at that time they didn’t recognise the difference between boy-Aspies and girl-Aspies. Recently she has been ‘accepted’ into the Aspie ranks when she went off the rails at school with severe anxiety and saw a psychiatrist who, thankfully, sees Aspie girls like her all the time!
    I have been from psychologist to counsellor to specialist with my Aspie kids, joined support groups and read everything I could get my hands on about Autism, but got little emotional support or practical help with day-to-day coping. I struggled the most with getting emotional support and understanding for myself – not only was I dealing with the kids’ problems, but I had to deal with my own AS and how it affected my life, with the knock-on effect on their lives and my poor, beleaguered marriage! I went to counsellor after counsellor who not only tried to talk me out of my son’s diagnosis, they completely ignored my tentative comments about exploring my own AS. I was confused and mystified that people who were specially trained in minding peoples’ mental health would completely ignore and dismiss my evident distress because it was outside of their experience or comfort zones. Eventually I decided to provide for others what I wanted – a counselling service specialising in parents/carers of Aspies who actually believe the unbelievable! If I ever write a book on this subject, I think I will call it ‘Believing the Unbelievable’!!!
    So, I saddled up, went back to college at the age of 43 and learned how to counsel. I have just got going in my private practice, but have already seen people who mind not only Aspie kids, but also Aspie spouses! I am slowly tipping the scales towards righting what I perceive as a seriously wrong attitude on the part of people who claim to have my mental health as their priority.
    So I suppose, this lo-o-o-ong note is my attempt to encourage you to pursue you dream of counselling/advising, and to offer a contribution to your search for bloggers/journallers. I’m not sure what you’re looking for, but I’d like to help.
    Hope to hear from you sometime!
    Lyn

    • Thank you so much Lyn! I have been wanting to write you and thank you! This past week has been exhausting. I work 10 hour shifts at a pediatrician’s office and 12 hour shifts at a hospital. There’s an hour commute to both jobs!! Between the two jobs I worked eight days in a row. I could barely keep my eyes open as I trudged through the door each night. ❤ Thank you for being so inspiring. Each day I realize that I finally KNOW where I need to be.

  2. How do I begin to – Thank You – for stopping over and following my humble blog-o-thing?!? I wish you the very best, not only today but well into the future. Be inspired and please take care.

  3. Hi Sherri Hi Lyn , I feel wonderful love is growing out of troubles. Such passion may not be born if there
    wasn’t suffering . I need to try to thank God for what I suffered mentally for out of it comes endless love for my Asperger boy and passion to help others. I’m 50 now and have trouble learning through reading . It took me 25 minutes to read both of your post. But I feel the same way as you do to be able to counsel aspire parents .

  4. Hi, Sherri–I wanted to let you know I quoted your lovely essay on grief in a post about understanding my son Jim’s struggle with the death of his grandfather (https://motherojim.wordpress.com/). Your blog post was the clearest, most helpful piece on folks with Asperger’s dealing with grief that I found anywhere on line. I talked with Jim and about skipping the anger/denial/bargaining stages; he said, “Exactly.”

    Thank you!

    Pam

    • Thank you so much. I loved what you wrote, and I have replied. I searched everywhere online and could find nothing when I was hurting. I am so very glad my blogged helped you and your son Jim.

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